Is it possible to divide a household income fairly?? Mine is very one sided. I pay for everything, o except the 320 he sometimes puts into my electric meter. My oldest son only gets £30 a week but gives a 3rd of that to our house. My husband gets a lot more and gives a lot less. I accept that H has commitments. Is it my households problem that he is over commited?? I have discussed this at great length with my friends who say I have been a muppet. Hearing myself say things out loud shocks the hell out of me. I find myself sighing at my own stupidity. I have always just put up with the status quo as it looked easier than rocking a shaky boat.
I am planning to put my foot down. I haven’t got the details in my head totally sorted yet. I was thinking that the 1/3 rule that works for jamie should work for both h & I. All of my money goes to house/kids. I have no savings because I have none left. Thats not the way I was raised and its not the way I want my children to be raised. I want things financial to be fairer. is that a big ask? Tough if it is cos thats the way its going to be. I will not play this unfair game anymore. I come across as demanding. Well, it has to be done fairly or I see no point to even trying to carry on married. Frankly, I could pay someone to do all the stuff H does and I would still come out financially on top. How sad a statement is that!!
Im not looking for validation btw. I’m just acknowledging the fact that a)I’m naturally dim, passed on from my mother and b) even the dimmest can get the light switched on. Perhaps if H doesnt or cant take financial responsibility for the home & family he created perhaps it is time for me to grow-up & go it alone.